A Gutten Brev Shabbos Parshas Devarim.
Early Shabbos-6:03
Hadlakas Neiros-7:09.
Mincha E"S-7:34. Maariv-8:19
Shachris-8:25. Sof Z"K-9:11
Mincha-6:00- note change
Tisha B'av:
7:48- Shkiyah/Fast begins
8:28-Shabbos ends/ remove shoes change clothes
8:50- Mariv 9:00 approx.-Eicha
Rav Kalman Rosenbaum will give a shiur after Eicha
8:45- Shachris. 9:11-Sof Z"K
The Rav will be speaking throughout the Kinnus.
1:20- Mincha 1. 7:15- Mincha 2
8:08- Mariv
Bein Hazmanim Shachris 8:00
By R’ Chaim Zev Lemberger
One day Reb Chaim was driving down the parkway and boom he got a flat tire. So he pulled over to the side and called AAA and he waited for someone to come help him. A while later a car pulled up and this big hulking older Italian looking gentleman jumped out and got to fixing the tire. As they were talking Joe tells him you know I used to be a cop in Williamsburg I used to hang out in Satmer I know all about you guys. Very nice says Reb Chaim and they speak a little more the tire is taken care of and as Joe is ready to get back into his car he says rabbi can I ask you something? Yes says Reb Chaim, is it true that 2000 years ago you guys had a temple that was destroyed and you guys are waiting for it to be rebuilt and you guys cry over it all the time? Yes he says, and is it true that if you guys all just got along it will be rebuilt? Yes he says, so Joe looks at him and says so why don’t you guys just get along?! We all know that we are still in this גלות because of שנאת חנם, the חפץ חיים says in his seforim tens of times that this is the main reason we are still in גלות and until we rectify it we won’t be redeemed. But I have a question we don’t have שנאת חנם this generation has more חסד and more צדקה than ever there is an organization for everything there are countless gemachs there is so much money being given out, it can’t be there is שנאת חנם? The answer is שנאת חנם doesn’t mean חסד you can be the biggest בעל חסד and asken and still be full of שנאת חנם. How do I know? The gemarah says the second בית המקדש that they were עוסק in Torah and chessed why was the בית המקדש destroyed? Answers the gemarah שנאת חנם, so it must be they are 2 different things. But what does that mean what does שנאת חנם mean if it doesn’t mean being not nice to someone else? My Rebbi Reb Meir Warshager explained as follows, why is it that we dislike any person who is a little different from us. If you think about it all day we walk around thinking about other people, and how they are constantly irking us, they are bothering us just by them being them. Let me give you a few examples, when we are in shul how many times do we get bothered by others because the way they look, the way they stand, put on their tallis, their hat, they space out, they talk, they daven loud, quiet, they shake too much, too little, we get upset that they do things differently. Why does it bother us? Even if we say they are doing something wrong, not like shulchan aruch , why does it bother us? The answer is שנאת חנם that is שנאת חנם! There is no reason for it but we don’t want them to be different even though our differences make us who we are but still it irks us it bothers us until it gets to a שנאה we don’t even realize it, but think about it for a minute who bothers us every random person for no reason other than they irk us they bother us. Someone once told me he really can’t stand so and so, why he doesn’t know but he just can’t stand him, his being bothers him that is שנאת חנם our entire being reeks of שנאת חנם. That’s what this goy Joe asked Reb Chaim. Why can’t you guys just get along? It’s a great question, if the בית המקדש means that much to us we would do anything to get it back? But if we don’t even realize the issue then we can’t try to fix, it if we walk around saying we don’t have שנאת חנם, then we can learn שמירת הלשון and make מחסום לפי and open a gemach and run the biggest chessed organization and still be full of שנאת חנם. רבנו יונה says that we need to remove שנאה from ourselves. Askes Reb Chatzkel why remove it? It should say its אסור and we can’t have it? Must be he answers that this is part of us, this middah is a part of our makeup and we need to work to remove it. So what to do I don’t know but the first step is to know what the issue is so that way we can try to fix it.
Hatzlacha Rabah!!
Halachos of Tisha B’Av: By the Rav Shlita
1) Eating and Drinking
One does not need to spit out his saliva.
Chewing gum is forbidden.
Pills, tablets, capsules and bitter syrups for medication purposes may be taken on Tisha B’Av. In case of need one is permitted to swallow them with a small amount of water.
If one is in great distress, he may rinse his mouth with water. However, one should bend forward when rinsing, so that the water will not run down his throat.
A woman during the first thirty days after childbirth does not fast.
Pregnant and nursing women should consult a Rav.
2) Bathing and Washing
Washing for enjoyment is prohibited.
Washing dirt off hands or other parts of the body is permissible.
Washing the hands in the morning when waking up, after using the bathroom and before davening is permissible. The minhag is to wash only until the end of the knuckles.
After washing hands in the morning, one may wipe his face with his wet hands, even if this is intended for pleasure.
When washing food or dishes (see “Work” below), one may do it as usual, even though his hands will get wet.
Washing parts of the body before a hefsek tahara is permitted.
3) Tefilah
Tevilah is not permitted on Tisha B’Av.
For a tevilah on מוצאי תשעה באב, ideally one should prepare only after the fast ends. If this will be difficult, one should consult a Rav.
4) Anointing
Anointing for pleasure is prohibited.
It is prohibited to smear body oil or cream to keep the skin smooth or moisturized.
For medical reasons, such as on a wound, sunburn or chapped skin, it is permitted.
Sun tan lotion to prevent sunburn is permitted.
Deodorant to remove or prevent sweat is permitted.
Perfume is not permitted.
5) Wearing Shoes Made of Leather
Shoes made of leather – or even partially of leather – may not be worn.
Shoes made of cloth, rubber or plastic are permissible, even though they protect the foot and are comfortable.
If one purchased a special pair of shoes for Tisha B'Av, it is preferable to wear them at least once before the fast begins. If one did not do so, one may still wear them.
6) Cohabitation
Cohabitation is prohibited on Tisha B'Av.
Included in this is the prohibition of touching on Tisha B’Av evening.
All other harchakos are muttar.
During the day, touching is permissible.
7) Learning Torah
One should learn those portions and topics which are relevant to Tisha B’Av and mourning.
8) Greeting
It is forbidden to greet people on Tisha B'Av
Nodding the head is permitted.
Sending a gift is prohibited.
Wishing mazel tov is considered a bracha rather than a greeting and is therefore permitted.
To inquire about the health of a person who is not feeling well is permitted.
One should not have conversations with others that will lead to removing one’s thoughts from the חורבן בית המקדש.
Some have the minhag to visit a cemetery. If possible, one should try not to go with a group.
9) Work – Business
Any type of work which requires time to do is prohibited until חצות היום. In case of need, one should consult a Rav.
Even housework should be postponed until after חצות, and if possible until after the fast.
One should not start preparing food for after the fast until after חצות.
One may prepare food for children all day.
10) Sitting on the Ground
One may sit on a cushion or low chair.
At חצות היום , one may start to sit on a regular chair.
11)Shacharis
No tallis and tefillin are worn. The bracha on tzitzis is also not recited.
The minhag is not to say the שיר של יום.
12)Mincha
The tallis and tefillin are worn for mincha.
Mincha begins with the שיר של יום.
13)מוצאי תשעה באב
Some have the minhag to wash their hands until the wrist three times.
Havdalah is recited on Sunday night using wine or grape juice. Only the brachos of HaGafen and Hamavdil are recited. The Pesukim at the beginning and the other brachos are ommited.
One may drink water before Havdalah.
The minhag is to say קידוש לבנה on Motzei Tisha B’Av, after one has eaten something and put on shoes.
Haircuts, music, bathing and washing clothing are permitted Monday noon.
Eating meat and drinking wine is prohibited until Monday noon.
